What About Me?

What about me? This famous line comes into play in almost every one's life some sooner others later . How we deal with it provides us with either the greatest happiness or never ending
despair.

As a man, as a husband and as a father I've asked this question throughout my life and now I am able to appreciate and evaluate the answers that I responded to. When I was born it was all about me for I was brought into this world by two people that showed they love and admired each other through me. I was not a by product of casual passion nor some one's self pleasure. My birth was wanted. My being brought joy and happiness to my parents. This period of life was all about me. What I took from my parent's individualism though I did not understand at the time it shaped my being for the rest of my life. My fathers analytical ability along with his unending energy and drive has been at the forefront of my adult life. My mothers determination , vision and love is with me in everything I do.

The process of finding and nurturing love is complicated at times for most men are driven by there hormones and not there head and heart. When these opposing factions are aligned by that special person ones views and direction take a new meaning. Now the statement changes from " What about me to What about us?" Two people with different upbringing and different points of views have to now adjust to what will be there goal and direction. Will one be strong while the other follows and visa verse.? Will the two present themselves as one? Will love and understanding prevail through strife and turmoil? Will everyday distractions take hold and change one's outlook towards the other? Life brings many choices and tests which may enhance or diminish our character. In thirty years of marriage I've learned to adjust, adapt and most important I've grown in knowledge.

Now the greatest and most amazing aspect of life is bringing another life into this world. The responsibility of another life that is totally dependent on you is frightening, however it defines your life like no other. Holding that helpless being for the first time brings out emotions and feelings that you have never felt. Again the statement changes from " What about me to What will I have to do? " In my case my mind told me that my life was no longer mine as long as I was responsible for the child that we made.

How quickly the cycle of me turns to the cycle of you!